I was in denial about my addiction until I listened to episode 1, “What is Pornography”. This podcast has helped me, and my Spouce, in ways I can’t even begin to explain. With so many important topics covered and the way Mark and Steve relay their information, I have incorporated this show into a part of my recovery program. The fact that the hosts are in recovery themselves helps, too. This podcast has changed my life, and saved my marriage. Thank you, Mark and Steve, for all the knowledge you bring.

Your latest podcast that covered not being able compete really hit home for me. I often times have a hard time putting my feelings into words and hearing that women describe how she felt was exactly how I feel.

Generally very good but way too many religious undertones, instead of strictly medical/psychological advice

This podcast has occasional great content, but it’s getting to be a 15 minutes worth of content and 5-10 minutes of commercials for the paid product. Stop doing ads and more content for the folks who need it!

While I appreciate the support for the betrayed partner is much greater than what you’ll find on other podcasts and platforms, the fact that sexual infidelity is not identified as abuse is extremely harmful to the betrayed partner. In order for there to be full validation, there has to be the recognition that the lies, gaslighting, coercive control, is - by definition - psychological abuse. It’s easier for an addict to shift blame for their actions to past traumas rather than to fully take responsibility and be held accountable for their entitled beliefs and abusive behaviors.

I’m the partner of a newly discovered Sex Addict for my entire marriage. What a shock to my heart and health. Suddenly my world is turned upside down and for nothing I did. Help is hard to find and these men and their pasts along with their knowledge has been a life saver for me. Extremely helpful grateful and thankful this information is available to me. Thank you

This podcast has provided so much insight and advice to me in my recovery journey. Thank you for what you do. I’m currently struggling after a relapse and I look forward to your episiodes every week to help me get back on track.

This podcast was an oasis in the desert of sex addiction and betrayal trauma for me and my partner when we were desperate and had no idea where to turn. The balanced perspectives between addict and betrayed partner along with Mark and Steve’s gentleness and lightness to such heavy, burdened listeners is a gift. Thank you both for the amazing work you do.

Mark and Steve’s approach may be the perfect thing for some. After listening to the most recent episode, I decided to write a review. I’ve listened to all their episodes along with many other podcasts in the recovery space. After working 12 steps in various groups including SAL for over 20 years I Learned that much of the tools provided there just don’t work for me . I would recommend listening to Sarah Brewer, Zach Spafford, Sathia Sam, or Tony Overbay. I believe using the word addict and addiction can really serve to keep many people stuck. When you take away the porn, all you are left with is unhealthy or difficult emotions. Learning how to deal with these emotions with less shame is a more effective way to mindfully approach the struggle! If you are having to go to 12 step meetings 10 years into your recovery and still have to call an accountability partner every day, I think it’s time to find a better set of tools. I just don’t really think the 12 step approach for alcoholics anonymous transfers into the sexuality realm very well. I do agree that the true connection, authenticity, and healing that need to happen for real recovery can happen outside of 12 steps with the right tools and the right therapy in the right mindset, and with mindfulness. I’ve experienced more true recovery, not just sobriety, with an approach that feels like finally finding some answers! If you are in a hole, and the only tools people are offering is the same set of shovels you’ve always had, and they tell you that you just have to dig harder, get madder, etc… it’s the wrong tools. The tight tools really are more liberating. The sooner we stop calling this struggle “addiction” and own the fact that we can choose differently and have different results the better. My wife loves that I can finally be authentic and honest without the shame and labels.

What an amazing podcast. So glad you guys emphasize on what the spouse is feeling/going through/her recovery, rather than just focusing on the man’s addiction and ED. You guys are the best out there. I’ve been binge listening nonstop. Could literally listen to so many episodes back to back everyday without a complaint.

Thank you for considering the effects of porn on partners. Most podcasts are male centric and all about them and their ED etc. I love the depth, honesty and compassionate perspective. I also love it’s not God / Christian centric which is unhelpful and a huge turn-off. Thanks so much for this! I’m so grateful! Thank you from a new binge listener. 😁

As the betrayed spouse, this podcast is very informative and helpful. Pulls back the curtain on some of the thoughts and struggles of sexual addicts.

I have recently binge listened to a lot of these podcasts and they have spoke to my heart and soul. After recently discovering my spouses porn addiction and emotional affair I have been at a complete loss and feeling so helpless and worthless. I have found some affair recovery videos that have helped explain the confusion, pain and anger in my heart and gave me validation and pointing to some very needed resources. But I was still left wondering “why” and “how”. I found this podcast and started listening to try to better understand my spouses actions and thoughts. There were times they seemed to have described the exact conversation or exchanges that my spouse and I had and gave insight to possibly the reasons why. So many instances of “wrong thinking” or immature behaviors that I could never grasp. By listening with an open heart and mind in hopes of gaining empathy for my husband and his pain, I was able to put so many pieces of our life together and see how the affected one another. I had been looking at most of them as individual characteristics but almost all of them are connected and when put together I am now able to see the whole puzzle or picture. I still have many missing pieces that I hope I can someday come to better understand but I am feeling so much better than before I started listening. I feel like I am able to have a more compassionate heart for my husband and see his broken pieces. I had never considered all the different ways that porn could influence or affect a person, their personality and their relationships. These two gentlemen are vulnerable and informative in such a beautiful way that it takes away a lot of the stigmas and misunderstandings that I had carried. I’ve seen people say the laugh too much but I have felt so close to what they are speaking to that I feel the laughter sometimes in my heart too. And bringing some laughter to a very difficult situation is not wrong. I just helps lighten our hearts if we allow it to. I am so grateful for this podcast and all the ways it has helped me understand something that so few can or will talk about. I have had a judgmental heart from all of my religious influences of my past but I can now see things from a much different perspective and can have empathy and compassion for the addicts core desires and not just their external behaviors. Thank you so much. I hope these two gentlemen realize the impact that are having on people and continue to share their hearts, experiences and wisdom.

The continual laughing about this painful addiction is very triggering. Thank you for the information, but it’s really not that funny.

Both of these guys have walked the talk, come out of addiction, and now help others. Talk show format, relaxed, practical.

I have over 20 years experience working with individuals and families that have struggled with the effects of pornography and sex addiction. And I can 💯 tell you these guys are legit and know their stuff. You should definitely listen and take note- David Kozlowski-Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist