I found this podcast a little over two years ago while searching for Christian podcasts. My marriage of then 14 years to my high school sweetheart was not in the best place. We had survived some huge trials over the years including long distance relationship while he was in the military and I was in school, after marriage we got out of huge debt, then tried to start a family and endured 8 years of infertility, multiple miscarriages, and finally had our beautiful longed-for daughter. What we always wanted was finally a reality, but we fell into roommates faster than I ever thought possible. We had an amazing sex life up to having my daughter, but hormones, extreme pain with intercorse, lack of sleep, opposite schedules all really diminished what was once a healthy sex life. Sadly, we only had sex 10 times the year my daughter was born, definition of a sexless marriage. After finally getting some pelvic floor therapy things were much better in the sex department, but we had recently had some major blowups over the mundane things of life and I needed some guidance. I started listening and couldn’t get enough of your podcasts. So many of the things you talk about we had gone through and survived. How could the little things be getting to us now? My favorite thing I have picked up and use often is What can I do? My attitude change/shift has made a huge difference in all forms of our intimacy. The sex is amazing, in fact, it’s better than ever after 25 years together and 16 years married. I also feel like I can be open and honest and not fear any resentments because if I stay positive it diffuses the little day to day tiffs. Thanks for all you do and wanted to say that today I am officially caught up on all of the podcasts from 1 to 841. And also we did it!!!!

For me, some episodes are more helpful than others based on the season of our marriage. Other episodes, not relevant at all. But one thing they all have in common is that the hosts always make it about themselves. TMI!

I searched for marriage on the podcast app & found Tony & Alisa. They discuss every issue in marriage with no filter! Love it!

Found this on accident found this now listened to one and decided I had to go back and start from the beginning which I drive a truck so have plenty of time after two weeks. I’m on episode 161. Continue to listen trying to figure out how to approach the wife listening

I did enjoy this episode and found it helpful in learning how to deal with my political differences with family members. However, I wish there would’ve been more talk about differences within the marriage concerning political subjects. I feel like my husband and I are actually on opposite sides of thought when it comes to politics and it has caused quite a lot of stress and anxiety in our marriage.

I feel super glad to have found this podcast and have been listening to episodes in the 400-800s. Tony and Alisa share open, honest, real life experiences and they do not shy away from the difficult topics. Several episodes have resonated with my spouse and me, and we have found it helpful to know we’re not alone in this stage of life. One quick warning for those considering this podcast: skip entirely the first 20 or so episodes (or at the very least listen to a WHOLE bunch before you dig back that far). Had I started at episode 1, I wouldn’t have made it past the first few because Tony is such a whiney brat who consistently must get in the last word. Thank goodness he grew out of that, because the last several years of episodes are amazing!

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I recently found this and was compelled to share. Keeping your marriage front and center is one of the most important things to do. This podcast is a great resource for helping you do that!

ONE extraordinary Marriage doesn't shy away from the complexities of marriage; instead, it invites listeners to embrace the journey with open hearts and open minds. Whether you're seeking practical advice or simply craving a comforting conversation about the joys and challenges of marriage, this podcast is a must-listen.

You bring the raw and the real and I’m so grateful to have y’all as marriage mentors. I wouldn’t be here in my relationship today without your wisdom and guidance.

Tony and Alisa do a great job of allowing the reality of marriage to take what would have felt hopeless to a place of hope!

Stumbled upon this podcast when my relationship got turbulent. I never realized how much room we had to grow with all 6 Pillars of Intimacy! But Tony and Alisa are a wealth of knowledge and make tough topics fun- or at least easy- to talk about. I wouldn’t have the loving, supporting, wonderful relationship with my gorgeous woman without them. Highly highly recommend you take a listen :)

This podcast clarified my mind and transformed my marriage. There is no one thing that makes an extraordinary marriage. There are many different facets that blend into something extraordinary. The extensive collection of episodes provide the real life examples of building all the pillars of intimacy and provide a lot of samples of the fallout from crumbling intimacy. Before OEM, I had my intimacy priorities, she had hers, but we never found room to work on both together until we had the Six Pillars from OEM. This podcast normalizes the conversations that could make our marriage work. Then it showed us how to have the conversations ourselves. Now we have the One Extraordinary Marriage we were seeking for 37 years. I wish we had this advice when we were young!

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So glad to have found this podcast! Tony & Alissa are so real and relatable. They share the topics that we all think about, but don’t know how to tackle. It gives couples a non-threatening way to open up their own crucial conversations within their own marriage. From the many books they’ve written, to this weekly podcast, Tony & Alissa are truly experts in what makes marriage work.

I have found a lot of good content from this podcast over the years and it’s been very helpful. Just understand the podcast as it stands today is a means to an end….this is their business and not strictly a ministry. The self-promotion of their products and services has escalated substantially over the years making it harder to discern what is truly “real” content vs overt or covert ads. That said it’s not a deal breaker… I just wish they’d tone it down a few notches on the self promotion. I find myself having to hit fast forward a lot.

I have had the privilege of knowing Tony and Alisa for over 10 years. They are a super genuine and experienced couple with a passion for helping create extraordinary marriages. Highly recommend this show for any couple who’s looking to take their relationship to the next level.

Just a couple of religious puritans trying to impose their morals on everybody else. And their advice is not based on evidence or science. Bye!

Thankful for this show but I do wish they would chill a bit on advertising their book. It’s only certain episodes but some of them they advertise more than try and help people. I get you have to eat but I think loving people will handle that.

Great advice, practical tips, and they give off such a great positive energy that I can see why people find so much hope after listening. Love this podcast.

So disappointed in Tony and Alisa. They are not supportive. I really enjoyed their podcasts but most enjoyed their FB group. The community is the most supportive out of all marriage support groups. But Tony and Alisa monitored, censored, and filtered every one of my posts reaching out asking for support because I “said the same thing looking for recommendations.” Practice what your preach and help your “family” get through their difficult situations. Clearly they’re only in it for the profit - buy their book or get marriage coaching. 🙄

What an amazing podcast to help married couples have a fulfilling Marrage that God intended. Thank you both for your heart and passion to help others 🙏

Years ago my husband and I felt hopeless. We felt as if there was nothing we could do to save our marriage. We looked like we had it all together but in reality we were hurting. We were constantly arguing because it seemed as if we were both speaking a foreign language in our relationship. We just couldn't get on the same page! After 20 years of being with each other there were a lot of resentments built up. We didn't know how to overcome them. We needed help. God answered our prayers! He sent us to Tony and Alisa DiLorenzo's podcast and website. We started listening to their podcast and after just ONE episode we signed up for coaching with Alisa! Between God, Alisa and our willingness to work together, we changed the direction of our marriage. We let go of past resentments, we are have learned how to communicate better and LOVE each other. It hasn't been easy, there have been a lot of difficult things to work through and I know there is a lot more work ahead of us. We will never be perfect but that's not our expectation! Our expectation is to love each other, communicate effectively and be on the same team, and I am happy to report that we have met and exceeded that expectation with the help of God, Tony and Alisa. If just ONE of you reading this benefits from this info, than it's been totally worth my public display of affection! If you do ONE thing today for your spouse, for your marriage, for YOU! Go listen to the ONE Extraordinary Marriage podcast, visit their site, learn about them! You will NEVER regret making your marriage better! SO blessed and thankful for you Tony and Alisa! Thanks for putting yourselves out there weekly, you are truly a tool for God. Love you!

Tried but couldn’t get myself to finish even one show. Super phony. And I don’t think that you should have a show title that includes the word “extraordinary” if you can’t even pronounce the word. Also, how embarrassing for your kids…

This podcast saved my marriage. Saved my life. It not only put my marriage on track, it put me as an individual on track. Listening to this as a couple does wonders, but even just listening to this individually creates huge change within a relationship. The idea of ‘what can I do?’ as opposed to ‘how can I fix my spouse’ has drastically changed my mindset and in return made my marriage wonderful. Tony and Alisa have created a simple and doable framework for you to follow that really does create lasting results. I started first by listening to the first episode, then cherry picking what episodes sparked my interest. I usually listen to the podcast and discuss it with my husband when we have time together or over the phone on his lunch break. I listen to them close to everyday now and my marriage hasn’t been this good in 14 years! Highly recommend this. Divorce would be so much lower if everyone did!

Wow, this episode really hit home and triggered me to think about how our dog has positive but also negatively affected our marriage. Thank you!

So many wonderful tips and great, sound, practical advice. Whether you are newly married or “well seasoned” married you will learn so much! Thank you for speaking your truth and bringing us along for the ride!!! I find it is liking listening to great friends having a fascinating conversation…you just want to keep listening! Thank you so much!

Comes across as sex advice for experts from experts. It’s just not relatable if you actually need help. How can a wife encourage a husband to keep doing the good stuff, if there isn’t good stuff? I know that seems harsh, but some people literally never get any pleasure(I’m speaking specifically about the oral sex technique episode) & they just need to be able to tell their spouse to please look into new techniques.

This shouldn’t be on the kids and family category

There is nothing too awkward or uncomfortable for Tony and Alisa to discuss. They have great advice and ideas to improve any marriage.

I don’t care if you have been married 5 years or 20 years, this show is amazing. I wish I found it years ago. Younger couples, don’t pass this up, get your marriage started right. Couples who have been married a long time, this can help you take it next level. I love this show. Can’t wait to read the book that is on its way

This has been a huge blessing in our marriage. Thank you for making the effort each week to share your open honest opinions!

This podcast is incredibly helpful for all couples who want to have an amazing marriage. For newlyweds to those who have been married for years-it has so much to offer. The vulnerability Tony and Alisa are willing to share is truly genuine. I have shared this podcast with my adult married children and with my nieces and nephews and many others who want to have an extraordinary marriage!

So worth the time. Breaks down barriers when you are both listening to Podcast. Don’t have to listen together but rather taking points and makes it easy to Talk outside the bedroom - scheduling sex is fun and adds to anticipation and verbal foreplay thru out they day I would like for Tony to talk more and hear the husband/ male perspective Feels that Tony plays/ responds off Elisa most of the time.

Scary to hear you didn’t go get checked out by a medical doctor after such scary symptoms. I wouldn’t have said that over the podcast. 😬

I stumbled across this podcast a couple months ago and have been listening every day since! I love Tony and Alisa’s honesty and transparency. The podcasts topics are great. The advice they give is extremely helpful. Definitely worth a listen!

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I feel like I’m in constant debate with my mind, my thoughts, my words. Instead of being my greatest advocate I feel like I’m my constant critic. And unfortunately because this is my thought process it spills over to my spouse and my children. Out of the overflow of the heart the mouth speaks. I just stumbled across your podcast and I’m not even sure why I chose this episode. God works in mysterious ways. I’m struggling if to send this to my son who seems to have a lot of these/my tendencies. I wish in my 20s and 30s I had podcasts to listen to, or pearls of wisdom from someone else. But I never want to over step my boundaries. Any thoughts?

My wife and I had the pleasure of speaking to Tony and Alisa and found them to be as authentic and transparent as they are on their Podcast. We are thankful to have them as a resource to add even more value and guidance to our marriage.

I have been through many relationships and feel as though I have found the one. He is recently divorced with three boys. I have one boy and have never been married. We kinda had a complicated start coming out of toxic relationships and being friends. I want to make sure we go about everything in the best way possible.I discovered your podcast as I was seeking helpful tools to help us in our quest for an amazing relationship. With your podcast I realized the things we are doing right and the things we will try to ensure when we do get married we are on right track. Thanks again for everything! So very helpful!

I am still a newlywed and this podcast has incredible advice for people in every stage of their marriage! I love the different perspectives Elissa (not sure if I spelled her name right) and Tony both bring to every episode of this podcast.

I recently stumbled upon this podcast and love it. I binge listen to it because there is something in every episode you can take away. I am 2 yrs in to marriage and learning how to communicate and ask for what I need has been a major learning curve for me. Those episodes have majorly helped me reframe my thoughts around the importance of communication. I have been slowly going through each episode and every single one has given me food for thought and has caused self reflection on my marriage and what I can be doing to be a better wife to my husband. They are real, honest, and talk about everything that people typically hold back about in a marriage. They talk about the great stuff, hard stuff, and the not great things. I also like that there is a subtle religious undertone, but not so much that it would “turn off” anyone who wasn’t religious.

My husband and I have been listening and the content is there but they spend a lot of time being impressed with themselves- if they could cut out all the patting themselves on the back and get to content it would be much better

I found One and Tony and Alisa about a month ago. I work from home, with an Etsy shop, and have them playing in the background for 6-7 hours a day. I have listened to many newer episodes but decided to go back ten years to episode one! I’m on about episode 35 and have listened to about 25 newer episodes. I love that the DiLorenzos share from such an open place of authenticity and reality. They talk about EVERYTHING!! You will know you’re not alone in whatever crazy Issues you may be having. From oral sex to conflict, sex challenges, kissing games, and family dynamics. We have been married for 31 years and I learn something new every single episode. My husband still hasn’t knowingly listened but I have faith that he will. I say knowingly because I was listening to one the other night and I turned it off a few minutes after he came in...thinking he wouldn’t want to hear it. He said, “ I was listening to that “ ok... yay!! I also grew up in Poway and RB so I love that they’re from home and feel another connection when I know where they are and can picture where they are. I feel like I have new friends. Thank you Tony and Alisa, I love what you’re doing. You are changing lives and marriages. Keep Going!

Tony and Alisa are as real as it gets! So often, Christian marriages are put into this nice, tidy little box and no one discusses the real issues that plague our marriages. I have been listening to the One Extraordinary Marriage show for quite some time, and I always leave with great conversation points to discuss with my husband, and tangible tips to put into practice. I am so grateful to have had the chance to interview Tony and Alisa on my own podcast, and they were just as real my listeners! I keep coming back to them from more and more. Keep up the great work you guys! You are making a real difference in the lives of countless marriages!

Whether you are married for years, just married, Newley engaged, or are struggling in a long term relationship; listen to Alissa and Tony! My fiancé and I have had a rocky relationship. We’ve tried everything but still have many fights and struggles. Our wedding is right around the corner with the pressure getting to us quickly. Listening to Tony and Alissa talk abut their struggles we have applied what they have learned to heal our relationship so we have a good start to our marriage. This couple is a life and relationship saver!

My wife and I just passed our 20 year anniversary in June! Married at 19 and 20 respectively we had no clue what marriage looked like . We were in a 19 year nose dive and didn’t see the crash coming . Thanks to the one family and many other resources we have renewed our marriage and are spreading the word to other couples struggling . Intention is daily not , complacency has no room in marriage . Thank you Alisa and Tony , my beautiful bride and I are forever grateful !

I love the podcast. I feel that working on marriage is not often discussed in today’s society. It’s not in movies and it’s definitely not considered sexy by society. But this is real life and real advise for having a happy marriage. I’ve learned so much and I’m happy I started listening to the podcast less than one year into our marriage.

I have been taking in (and finally reviewing) some relationship podcasts lately, and was drawn to this one because of how popular it is. And I can see why it's so popular... the hosts have great rapport and insights, and aren't afraid to take on some of the uncomfortable topics related to marriage (especially sex). I do wish it was more inclusive though, and more evidence-based. Still, definitely worth listening to!

I absolutely love how practical these guys are! Just found your podcast last week I think and have listened to so many episodes alone and even 1 or 2 with my hubby! Thank you thank you for taking the time to share honestly about marriage!!!